# Expecting My First Child: Navigating Parenthood and a Demanding Job
I recently found out that I'm expecting my first child, and it’s a whirlwind of emotions. As someone in a Product Management (PM) role at a startup with around 200 employees, I find myself in a high-pressure environment that demands constant connection and commitment. It's not unusual for me to work 12-14 hour days, and I'm starting to question how I can juggle the responsibilities of a new parent with the demands of my job.
## The Struggle of Work-Life Balance
I often envy those who seem to have a manageable work-life balance or even the ability to coast through their days. My current role is a stark contrast to my previous job, which was much more laid-back and allowed for a better balance between work and personal life. With the impending arrival of my child, I feel an increased financial pressure, and it's daunting to think about how I will navigate this new chapter alongside a demanding career.
### The Reality of Startup Culture
In the startup world, the expectations are high. Being in constant communication with the CEO and top leadership means that I am always "on." Quick responses to Slack messages are not just appreciated but expected, and there is tight oversight on all ongoing projects. The thought of reducing my workload feels impossible, as the culture here is one of high engagement and relentless effort.
## Seeking Advice from the Community
In my quest for advice on how to survive this transition, I reached out to my network, and the responses were a mix of empathy and practical suggestions. Here are some of the most helpful insights I received:
### Take Time Off When the Baby Arrives
One parent advised me to prioritize taking time off work when the baby arrives. They emphasized the importance of being present during those early days with a newborn, as it can be both challenging and incredibly rewarding. As a PM, they shared their experience of preparing for their time off by ensuring that their team knew what to expect in their absence.
### Set Clear Boundaries
Setting boundaries is crucial. It’s important to communicate your availability and what you need from your team while you’re on leave. The advice was to trust my colleagues and make it clear that while I would be unavailable for a few weeks, they could reach out only in case of emergencies. One parent shared that they deleted Slack from their phone during their leave and only checked in occasionally, which helped them focus on their family.
### Consider a Change in Roles
Another suggestion was to look for a new role or team that offers a better work-life balance. The reality is that PM roles often come with high demands that can make it difficult to maintain a personal life, especially when starting a family. Some colleagues mentioned a growing trend of professionals stepping down from demanding positions in search of more manageable workloads.
### Navigating Job Transitions While Expecting
In an unexpected twist, one commenter shared their experience of putting in their two weeks' notice only to discover they were pregnant the next day. They expressed the stress of job hunting during the first trimester while acknowledging that staying in their previous role was not an option. They suggested that, if I consider changing jobs, I should be aware that family leave policies may vary greatly, and it may not be guaranteed until I have been with the new company for a certain period.
### Riding It Out
If changing roles isn’t feasible right now, another option is to ride out the current situation until maternity leave arrives. Taking the leave (if available) and reassessing afterward may provide clarity on the next steps.
## Conclusion
As I navigate this exciting yet challenging time, I am grateful for the community's support and wisdom. The journey into parenthood is undoubtedly daunting, especially when coupled with a demanding job, but I am reminded that it's crucial to prioritize my well-being and that of my growing family. Whether that means taking time off, setting boundaries, or even seeking a new role, I know that I am not alone in this experience.
If you’ve been through a similar situation, I’d love to hear your thoughts and tips. How did you manage the transition into parenthood while juggling a demanding career? Share your stories in the comments!